Category Archives: Relationships

Making a Difference guide

My Making a Difference guide is now available for purchase online.  Based on many conversations with school staff over the last few years it is a resource to support staff in understanding and supporting children with their behaviour and emotional … Continue reading

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The importance of not shaming children at school

A child who has poor self-regulation and impulse control can find it extremely difficult to change their behaviour and not do things. For example, if at home a child has to interrupt other people and talk over them to be … Continue reading

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Try alternative ways to respond to children’s behaviour

In my work I am always encouraging school staff to try different strategies to deal with children’s behaviour. It can be easy in life to keep doing things the way we’ve always done them and harder to be brave enough … Continue reading

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My needs don’t matter – the danger of children being people pleasers

Many children in primary schools may display a variety of behaviours that can cause concern. The children that are overly compliant and put their needs second,  may be harder to identify than more challenging behaviours but are of equal concern … Continue reading

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From snatching to sharing…..the benefits of emotionally focused group work

When I first met Jake he was in the outdoor area of his reception class trying to negotiate with the teaching assistant why he should stay on the bike he was riding round and not let another child have a … Continue reading

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How to help a child who finds it hard to sit still on the carpet

I am constantly asked by teachers in school how to manage a child who can’t sit still at carpet time so thought it would be useful to share some ideas. I often observe children at this time and these children … Continue reading

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Using emotional vocabulary during the school day

During the school day children may be asked to experience situations that adults may not feel comfortable experiencing, such as being vulnerable and sharing things about themselves which adults may find difficult to do. For example, asking a child to … Continue reading

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Building relationships with your new class

I have met with lots of school staff this week who have been finding the return to work a challenge. It can be hard for school staff to adjust to being back at school and all that it entails; it … Continue reading

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Helping children to develop a positive self-image

Children who have a positive self-image are able to share their happiness about their appearance in a healthy way, for example, showing you their new shoes or haircut. This is an important aspect of children learning to be happy with … Continue reading

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The impact of school staff leaving

When a member of school staff leaves the school at the end of the school year, this can have a big impact on some children. It is important for schools to consider how this is communicated to the children and … Continue reading

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