Category Archives: Relationships
Back to school
Thought this might be useful to help children’s transition back to school and in the coming weeks.
Posted in Behaviour, neglect, primary school, Reflective language, Relationships, self regulation, Stress, trauma
Tagged anxiety, new year, primary school, settling in, strategies, transition
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Behaviour that may indicate more support is needed with transition
As transition approaches in school, look out for the following behavioural changes that may indicate a child needs extra support: Start to become clingier to you Demonstrate a difficulty managing change Begins asking about their new class and new teacher … Continue reading
Posted in anxiety, Behaviour, Making a Difference, primary school, Relationships, Transition
Tagged anxiety, behaviour strategies, primary school, strategies, transition
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“I might get it wrong….”
This week a teacher asked me what he could do about a 10 year old boy in his class who kept finding excuses why he couldn’t do much writing in class. The child was often preoccupied, daydreaming and never produced … Continue reading
Posted in anxiety, Behaviour, Helping, Making a Difference, Relationships
Tagged emotional well-being, resilience
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How survival strategies can be misinterpreted
I’ve been thinking a lot this week about how behaviours in school can be misunderstood, its so important that we try and understand the feelings behind the behaviour, rather than making our own judgements and interpretations Hyper-vigilance = being nosy … Continue reading
Posted in adoption, Behaviour, emotional wellbeing, foster/adoption, fostering, LAC interventions healing, Relationships
Tagged adoption, anxiety, behaviour, emotional well-being, fostering, LAC
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Making a Difference guide
My Making a Difference guide is now available for purchase online. Based on many conversations with school staff over the last few years it is a resource to support staff in understanding and supporting children with their behaviour and emotional … Continue reading
Posted in Behaviour, Book, emotional wellbeing, Making a Difference, primary school, Relationships, School, training for staff
Tagged anxiety, behaviour, behaviour strategies, challenging, changing behaviour, children, communicating, emotional well-being, primary school, resilience, support, Teacher
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The importance of not shaming children at school
A child who has poor self-regulation and impulse control can find it extremely difficult to change their behaviour and not do things. For example, if at home a child has to interrupt other people and talk over them to be … Continue reading
Posted in anxiety, Behaviour, emotional wellbeing, Relationships, self regulation, staff
Tagged anxiety, behaviour strategies, emotional well-being, primary school, strategies
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Try alternative ways to respond to children’s behaviour
In my work I am always encouraging school staff to try different strategies to deal with children’s behaviour. It can be easy in life to keep doing things the way we’ve always done them and harder to be brave enough … Continue reading
Posted in anxiety, Behaviour, emotional wellbeing, primary school, Relationships, self regulation
Tagged changing behaviour, Confidence, emotional well-being, self regulation, Self-esteem, well being
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My needs don’t matter – the danger of children being people pleasers
Many children in primary schools may display a variety of behaviours that can cause concern. The children that are overly compliant and put their needs second, may be harder to identify than more challenging behaviours but are of equal concern … Continue reading
Posted in anxiety, Behaviour, emotional wellbeing, Helping, primary school, Relationships
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From snatching to sharing…..the benefits of emotionally focused group work
When I first met Jake he was in the outdoor area of his reception class trying to negotiate with the teaching assistant why he should stay on the bike he was riding round and not let another child have a … Continue reading
Posted in Behaviour, Book, emotional wellbeing, primary school, Relationships, self regulation, training for staff
Tagged anxiety, behaviour strategies, changing behaviour, child, early years, emotional needs, emotional well-being, EYFS, primary school, resilience, self regulation, Self-esteem, support
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How to help a child who finds it hard to sit still on the carpet
I am constantly asked by teachers in school how to manage a child who can’t sit still at carpet time so thought it would be useful to share some ideas. I often observe children at this time and these children … Continue reading
Posted in anxiety, Behaviour, emotional wellbeing, Helping, primary school, Relationships, self regulation, Stress
Tagged anxiety, behaviour, communication difficulties, emotional health, emotional well-being, self regulation, strategies, trauma
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