Category Archives: fostering

How survival strategies can be misinterpreted

I’ve been thinking a lot this week about how behaviours in school can be misunderstood, its so important that we try and understand the feelings behind the behaviour, rather than making our own judgements and interpretations Hyper-vigilance = being nosy … Continue reading

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Developing positive early relational experiences

In order for children to be able to build relationships with other people it is necessary for them to have a template of how to do this. A child’s first relationship is with their main caregiver and this is usually … Continue reading

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Meeting the needs of looked after children

I have been doing some work in schools recently with looked after children and their foster carers and am shocked and amazed by how much we expect these children to manage. Looked after children have usually experienced living with chaos, … Continue reading

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It’s important to consider the child’s emotional age….

I have been working with a foster carer who is looking after two girls aged 8 and 9, who like many fostered children have a history of neglect, emotional abuse and little experience of their physical and emotional needs being … Continue reading

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Some children show the opposite of what they feel

Some children have experienced difficult life experiences resulting in them being wary and mistrustful of adults. In school they may present as aggressive, manipulative, controlling, bossy and fearless. They may challenge staff, say they don’t care and appear frightening to … Continue reading

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