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Reflective language – free resource

I’ve developed a free online video resource which introduces reflective language, a simple and effective behaviour management tool that supports children’s emotional well-being. This is a technique I teach staff on a daily basis and which has had a big … Continue reading

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The importance of good working relationships

I spend a large part of my job supporting staff in developing strategies to manage challenging behaviour in children.  I also spend a significant amount of time supporting senior staff in managing challenging behaviour from other staff members. In my … Continue reading

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Giving children permission to make mistakes

I was talking to a year 4 teacher this week who has just started with her class and was telling me a  lot of the children find it hard to get started with their maths. I explored with him whether … Continue reading

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Being aware of children’s internal dialogue

Some children may have learnt to respond in a defensive way as a coping mechanism to manage the feelings of anxiety and fear that situations evoke in them. The child may present as feeling the opposite of this, for example, … Continue reading

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The importance of positive staff relationships

The quality of the relationships between staff in school impacts on their ability to work together effectively and to model positive relationships to the children. The relationship between the class teacher, teaching assistant and support workers in their class need … Continue reading

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Positive ways to respond to behaviour

Children do not want negative comments or attention for challenging behaviour, but some children may have learnt that any attention is better than no attention and therefore may evoke negative reactions from adults. Children who seek attention in the form … Continue reading

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“Mum was screaming cos he beat her to the floor”…a story of resilience

This is what a seven year old child told me several weeks ago during our first play therapy session. He witnessed domestic violence for the first few years of his life but his life is now more settled and stable, … Continue reading

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Children with attachment difficulties take longer to settle in a new class

Its week three of the new school year and from conversations i have been having this week with school staff, it seems that lots of children are still finding it hard to settle back to life in school. Children who have … Continue reading

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Understanding children’s internal dialogue

Some children may have learnt to respond in a defensive way as a coping mechanism to manage the feelings of anxiety and fear that situations evoke in them. The child may present as feeling the opposite of this, for example, … Continue reading

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What message does the following behaviour communicate to children?

Staff being negative about each other Staff snapping at each other Staff challenging each other in an aggressive manner Staff asking each other for help Staff providing help to each other Staff supporting and encouraging each other Staff being relaxed … Continue reading

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