Tag Archives: challenging

Making a Difference guide

My Making a Difference guide is now available for purchase online.  Based on many conversations with school staff over the last few years it is a resource to support staff in understanding and supporting children with their behaviour and emotional … Continue reading

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Supporting a child who is always angry

Jamal aged four had regular angry outbursts where he would shout, scream and sometimes throw things. He was very fragile and would get upset very easily if he got something wrong, was asked to do something he didn’t want to … Continue reading

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Smoothing the transition to high school

I was at a meeting this week where we were discussing how difficult it can be for some children to manage the transition from leaving primary school and going to high school. In my experience most primary schools are smaller … Continue reading

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Children who sabotage

Some children have such negative and traumatic life experiences that they may approach life with a “what’s the point” attitude. This has been learnt as a defence mechanism against feeling hurt and upset. Their lives have been so painful that … Continue reading

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Some children show the opposite of what they feel

Some children have experienced difficult life experiences resulting in them being wary and mistrustful of adults. In school they may present as aggressive, manipulative, controlling, bossy and fearless. They may challenge staff, say they don’t care and appear frightening to … Continue reading

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Helping to understand foster and adopted kids feelings

I have had several sessions with both foster parents and adoptive parents this week and we’ve been talking about the importance of allowing and encouraging children to express their feelings, but how difficult this can be when they are raging … Continue reading

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My Needs don’t matter – the danger of young children being people pleasers

Many children in primary schools may display a variety of behaviours that can cause concern. The children that are overly compliant and put their needs second, may be harder to identify than more challenging behaviours but are of equal concern … Continue reading

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Some children show us through their behaviour “I’ve still got baby needs”

I was talking to a class teacher last week who has 5 year old twin boys in her class who are disruptive, can’t sit still and very immature and attention seeking, especially after lunch time. I suggested the teaching assistant … Continue reading

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Another extract from my book :Understanding and supporting children who appear over-confident

There may be children in school who appear to be over confident and demand that they are chosen for everything, appear to know all the answers and may present as being happy in themselves. However, this may be a result … Continue reading

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You’ve opened my eyes

This is what a teacher said to me this week after I had spent several sessions with her discussing the behaviour of a 10 year old in her class. His behaviour is challenging, disruptive and at times very difficult to … Continue reading

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